Esther's dating secrets

Signs that shows you are in an abusive relationship         When talking about abuse,physical abuse is always the first that comes to mind.But abuse can come in different ways.   Been in an abusive relationship feels like torture,but sometimes you mistake love for abuse because most times that you have been abused by your partner, your partner brainwash you,and feel sorry for what they did to you,and that act makes you feel like it was not your partner's fault, that all will be well.    But if you are wondering whether its happening yo you,Here are signs that shows you are in an abusive relationship. 1.Always bringing up your past and judges you with it. 2.Controlling you and won't let you be yourself. 3.Brings you low or criticize you. 4.Looks at you or act in the way that scare you. 5.You always gets scare when you sees you partner. 6.Selfish. 7.Act jealous or possessive. 8.You finds it difficult to communicate with your partner. 9.Blames you for everything that happens. 10.T

How to be more romantic with your partner           Been romantic isn't all about sex,having sex with your partner. Its all about bringing out the joy and happiness in your partner, making the relationship enjoyable and comfortable, showing your partner everyday that been in love is a sweet thing.      They are lot of ways you can be romantic with your partner. So here are some few ways on how to be romantic with your partner. 1.Take your partner out on a date at least twice a week. 2.Go on a vacation with your partner. 3.Buy your partner gifts. 4.Always remember to surprise your partner. 5.Talk dirty with your partner. 6.Take your partner out on a secret dinner date. 7.Always court your partner. 8.Play with your partner. 9.Cook for your partner. 10.Assist your partner.lastly, 11.Have sex with your partner.         By Esther Alex Follow on Facebook page @ Esther                            Alex personal page. Facebook@eneada Esther ogaba. Instagram @ogabaesy.

Words you should never say to your partner when having misunderstanding.        Misunderstanding is putting the wrong interpretation on.Having misunderstanding with your partner in your relationship is normal but its important to watch out the things you say to your partner at that period.     It's important not to use fowl words,insults, to your partner.   Here are words you should never say to your partner when having misunderstanding. 1.Breakup. 2.Don't take this the wrong way. 3.You are not suppose to be angry. 4.I wish I never met you. 5.You are such a failure. 6.You are a disgrace. 7.You are so pathetic. 8.You are such an idiot or fool. 9.Now or never. 10.I hate you. 11.You are just like the others.      You should be mindful of what you say to your partner,because sometimes a misunderstanding that is suppose to be for few hours,will last for days because of the wrong words you say your partner.                     By Esther Alex Follow on Facebook page@esther Alex person

         Ways of been mature in a relationship          Matured partner stays in love,immatured partner falls.      Love is either wrong or right,playing games or forever.A partner is either mature or immature.    Relationship is for matured partner that can understand the ups and downs,and still handle the stress,not  immatured partner that can't handle the ups and downs of a relationship because they believe relationship is full of roses.  Here are some ways of been matured in a relationship  1.Learn to value trust, respect and sincerity. 2.Learn to be patient with your partner. 3.Learn to always forgive and forget. 4.Learn to accept the fact that people aren't perfect. 5.Learn to be faithful and trustworthy. 6.Avoid listening to rumors. 7.Learn to always maintain communication with your partner. 8.Learn to always be an understanding partner. 9.Learn to look at things from your partner perspective. 10.Learn to be caring to your partner. 11.Learn to listen before judging your

     Signs that shows you can trust your partner       Trust is the faith,confidence, and believe you have in someone. Trust is that foundation upon which your relationship can survive any tough time.It is the building block of any relationship, You cannot have a healthy relationship without it.      Are you having a second thought about trusting you partner? OR are you trying to figure out the qualities in your partner that can qualify him/her for your trust? If yes, Here are signs that show you can trust your partner.   1.Your partner will always have an open conversation with you. 2.Your partner will always be honest. 3.Your partner will always admit mistakes 4.Your partner will not hide his or her feelings 5.Your partner will be confident and comfortable when he/she is around you. 6.Your partner will be true with your word,and follow through with your action. 7.Your partner will always look for reasons to be  with you. 8.Your partner will always respect you and your privacy.      

How to make a long distance relationship last longer.      A long distance relationship is a intimate relationship between partners who are been separated from one another by locations.partners in LDR face locational separation and lack of face to face contact.LDR are difficult and can last when both partners have trust on themselves and are able to put in the elbow grease. This days,its hard to trust someone but when you trust yourself,things work out smoothly. Here are ways on how to make a LDR last longer 1.Communicate regularly and creatively. 2.Know each other schedules I.e free time and working time. 3.Make some rules on when and how you will see each other. 4.Gift a personal object for the other person to hold on to. 5.Celebrate everything together I.e birthdays,festivals,independence etc. 6.Keep updates of each other's social media activities. 7.Enjoy your alone time,and your time with family and friends. 8.Talk dirty with each other. 9.See it as an opportunity to learn to

The definition of love ❤❤in a relationship.    Love is the bond that holds a relationship strong and solid.A relationship comprises of many things like friendship, sexual attraction, compatibility and lastly love.          Here are some definitions of love in a relationship.     In a relationship, 1.Love is not list. 2.Love is generous. 3.Love is understanding. 4.Love is honour. 5.Love is respect. 6.Love means compromise. 7.Love allows you to fight without fear. 8.Love allows you to feel safe and protected. 9.Love allows you to feel happy for the success of your partner,not jealousy.          By Esther Alex Follow on Facebook page @Esther Alex personal page Facebook @Eneada Esther Ogaba and on Instagram @ogabaesy.

Reasons why long-term relationship fails. There are lot of things that cause the end of a long-term relationship. I was discussing with someone the other day and he told me the reason why he was still single and not married was because the lady he has been dating for 10yrs and was hoping to marry,left him and married someone else.I was so shocked when he made mentioned of 10yrs.I was like 10yrs?if I was to be her,I would have left you since 4yrs.He was surprised to my respond.I told him she left cause she got tired,and was out of love.How can you be dating someone for good 10yrs.what were trying to discover?   No matter who it is,how close you both are,or how far the relationship has gone.Once you reach that 4-7yrs,the relationship is going to suffer.At that point you begin to look and compare the relationship to its first year.The passion has simmered down,the butterflies in the your stomach has finally disappeared you will forget why you liked that person in the first place.Real life